Balance is key to being happy. Balance of our precious resources. My list includes but is not limited to; my physical being, time, money, energy, relationships, spirituality and work. My friend Karl used to say “Make new mistakes.” I am here to tell you that one of my repeat mistakes is the whole “too many irons in the fire” lifestyle. The good news is I am recognizing it early in this time and today is day one of correcting it. It all sounded good last Winter and Spring when planning.
So it is back to basics. For me it starts with weighing and measuring everything. As I have mentioned in my previous writings (see Exposing Myself) on this blog, the ability to have comfort in my own skin can still be a challenge. These are some of the things I do to remain centered and on track. Practicing these principles allows me to move through my days with relative ease.
1. Weighing myself at least once a week.
Begin. I have been very conscious of everything I put in my mouth for the past three or four years it has been daily. For the past twenty years a general theme, some periods of time better than others. The lie I begin to tell myself when I do not weigh myself regularly is that I can maintain my weight. I work out, I eat well, I still need my scale. For some this is unhealthy, for me it is key. Most times for most healthy adults if our weight is fluctuating more than 10 pounds in a month, there is an issue. So trying not to be obsessive but knowing where my body is, is a good practice. I look at it like this, most people would not continue to write checks out of their checkbook without checking their bank balance. I know by weighing myself if I can afford to splurge a little or carefully skimp.
2. Weighing and Measuring My Food.
Eye -balling portions can lead to bigger or smaller portions. Even if we are skilled. I have a strong bar/restaurant background and can still confidently pour 8, 10 or 12 ounces into containers of various shapes and sizes knowing where the liquid will land. I can also grab” a handful” of cereal and if I am in the right frame of mind, can find pretty damn close to a half cup at any given time. On a bad day that 1/2 cup handful is 3/4 of a cup with chocolate chips thrown in… and it goes from there, you get my drift. So knowing our liabilities by being honest with what they are before situations arise is key. So I do regularly weigh and measure my food!
3. Weighing and Measuring Time
A do- over. Epic fail right now, truly. I started a new journey with the love of my life Chris, we exchanged forever vows in Hawaii in August! AND a whole bunch of other stuff. I have had to choose, prioritize, figure out, squeeze in, wiggle, jiggle, giggle and cry. When they crying began… I decided to take a look. If you know me, you realize that I have a tremendous amount of energy, a lot of heart and a super positive attitude of gratitude… in a few months it’ll all be okay. I am fast approaching the final training of a 13 month journey to complete my 200 hour Registered Yoga Teacher Training Which lands me at day one week one, of taking a look at all of it going back to weighing and measuring my time and energy. AND BREATHING!!!
I also have a beautiful family they all have different needs. I am still very family focused! I have a wealth of friends and colleagues, by the way if you are reading now, I apologise in writing for not being more present. I love you all. I know these are “quality problems” truly I do. All of this wealth leads to precious little time for myself. I am cutting out as much TV as I can for sure, other than that, I am thinking.
4. Weighing and Measuring My Resources
Back to basics. When I don’t stick to these, responses become reactions, which usually require more action. So when I am taking care of managing my resources: food, relationships, time, energy,money and work, I usually respond instead of react. This means planning meals, eating right, rest, meditation, time with friends and family. Sometimes it means planning nothing and saying no! The newer buzz word for this is holistic self-care I have learned that being proactive in my life, looking at the big picture, keeps me from being reactive later. Chris says I am one of the most disciplined people he knows. I guess that is the good news. I think a lot of us struggle with balance, so I realize I am not alone. This blog is for me today to remind myself to practice what I preach by actively participating in my own care.
5. Weighing and Measuring MY GOALS:
Changing my life completely in the past three years; residence, business model, relationship status and more, some by choice and some by necessity, has been rewarding. I can still “make new mistakes” and learn from them. Learning about my role as my family grows, evolving and finding peace, has been significant. Negotiating the changes in my body, mind, spirit, and soul have been profound.